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I have a question. One that I feel needs an answer for reasons.

But if you like someone who doesn't see you as anything other than a friend, how exactly can one get over that? I mean, I've gone through something similar to this before, but it was always something I kept to myself and did nothing about it.

But now... In this case I'm not sure if I will be able to keep how I feel quiet much longer. I don't want anything to change and would feel bad if things changed for the awkward because of how I feel.

So any suggestions will be really helpful.

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[Kahlan's voice sounds soft and hopeful.]

If you like someone you should tell them. Even if they don't feel the same way, it doesn't have to mean things will change and if they do... perhaps they will change for the better. I don't think keeping it to yourself will make you happy.

[Even if the chance is small Kahlan believes he should take it and be honest. He deserves a chance to be happy.]

Friendzone'd, huh? Tough luck, man. Welp, here's the bad news.

No offense but you sound like a total pussy. Being afraid of feelings or even talking to this chick is super beta. And that's probably how she's always gonna see you; just some harmless gelding who won't bother her too much. Your best bet is to just work on another girl entirely and forget about this one; you'll pretty much always be "just a friend" in her mind, and that's a tough frame to shake.

But hey, I know that feel bro. There are steps you can take. But if you go down this road, things will change. You might have to ditch this pseudo-relationship entirely. So you gotta ask yourself: are you gonna be a blue-ball boy, keeping it all inside before it erupts into embarrassing failure? Or are you gonna be a man, and bust a move, letting the cards fall where they may?

Doesn't sound like you have anything to lose tbh.

Edited 2016-01-30 15:29 (UTC)

But even if that happened... The whole moving on thing would still have to be something I would have to do.

I would rather have a friendship than anything else though.

I don't care if I'm called a pussy or whatever, I'm use to it because well I'm brought up to be a nice person. Besides I really don't mind that I wouldn't be considered a man by most standards. I care more for being a friend than being in a relationship.

Because I know someday I might be luck enough to find someone.

[What a mess. John sheds a tear for the manlet. He felt kinda bad for him so he'd dole out one more golden piece of wisdom. What a patron.]

Yep, might as well make yourself nice and comfy in that friend zone. I get the feeling you're gonna be there a while.

One other thing. Stop being so passive. Doing nothing about stuff, "someday being lucky enough to find The One" (like girls are 4-leaf clovers). Incredibly gay. When you want something, take it. **** won't just magically happen.

I think I am quite comfortable in the friend zone, thank you.

Passive is better than being aggressive, so I think I'll stay the way I am.

Edited 2016-01-30 21:21 (UTC)

Just tell them. If you like them, you need to give them the chance to tell you how they feel back. You can't expect someone to figure it out if you aren't upfront with them.

And since they're your friend, at least you know they won't slam any doors in your face...probably.

Are you sure she doesn't share your affections?

[She smiles and it's noticeable in her tone of voice.]

Even if you tell her, it doesn't mean that she wont continue to be your friend. You're very earnest in your feelings and I can tell that you do like her. I'm sure any friend of yours values that friendship very much.

Pretty confident about that, honestly.

The problem I find is the fact that by saying, it would change it. It wouldn't be the same as before anyway and thats what scares me really..

I... kinda don't hope they figure it out. But I guess many people seem to want me to actually tell them.

But... the how is something I have no idea about.

Confessing seems like the only solution, doesn't it? That way you can think it out beforehand, instead of having it happen in some embarrassing way, like them catching you reciting it in the bathroom, or admitting that you're their fan and they give you their autograph...

Buy something cute to give them when you tell them. Something cool and fashionable, something you know they'll really love because it shows how well you know them and what's important to them.

[Kahlan hopes by talking to him she might be able to give him some sort of confidence.]

I suppose it might. Do you think you can get over her?

[If its so easy then his affection might not be genuine.]

Speak up. If you get accepted, good for you. If you get rejected, still good for you considering you can pick up the pieces and move on instead of always wondering what you're going to regret.

Just don't spend your life mooning over someone or refusing to listen when they say no. Believe me, it only makes everyone involved suffer.

Honestly? I don't know. I really don't. But I know it was different to how I felt about someone else before this.

At the moment a lot of people say that, so I guess it is the best solution. But... I've never done such a thing before.

Something cool and fashionable... I wouldn't know. Fashion was not my best subject.

I think after so many people have said that, it really does seem like the best choice. But... I wouldn't know how to.

Oh...well, then just something they really like?

I think I can buy something like that. I just hope it's okay...

Is it normal to be nervous?

Different how?

[There is a short pause before Kahlan frantically adds.]

If you don't mind me asking.

It's... hard to explain. This isn't something I'm good at or really talk about.

But...I guess...I feel like...It would be much harder to get over her than I did with my friend. I guess it's different in that I'm actually talking about it to, but to explain my feelings... I am not sure how.

Perhaps it's a different kind of affection.

[She smiles and it's noticeable in her tone.]

There are many forms of love.

Different kinds of forms of love.

I know of love as in friendship and crushes and the obvious kind. Is there more than that?

[Kahlan laughs softly.]

Yes, there is unrequited love. There is true love. There is a love that stems from respect. There is the love you have for friends and family. There is love for a person and then an idea.

It can mean many different things. Your heart will tell you what kind of love it is.

Well, guys are usually nervous when they tell me how much they like me, so...yeah, I'd say it is.

So if there any differences between them all? So... I can actually tell.

I know you mentioned my heart will tell me, but it's not easy for me to tell. Or I could just be blind to it.

That's god to know. So I guess it makes sense that you know a lot about this kind of thing.

[Kahlan exhales softly trying to figure out the best way to explain.]

There is the love you have for your family members, that love is more docile. You worry about them and care about them but you don't need to see them constantly to make sure they are okay. It isn't as if you never want to leave their side.

[Her voice trails off as if she's talking about herself.]

When you love someone you want to give all of yourself to them. You want to be close and never be part. Passionate love comes with physical attraction of course but it's far more complicated than just that.

But...What if it isn't physical attraction that makes you like them? Does that mean it's not love?

Of course not. It probably means you love them more.

Honestly? It's not hard. There's no "how" to it and anyone who tells you there's a special trick or some way to do it? They're stupid.

If you like someone, you tell them that you have feelings for them and that you'd like to do something with them to see if they go anywhere. If they say no, then that's the end of it even if it hurts.

I see. Then I guess if I do say something it will just hurt more. Then what? I still need to move one from it.

I guess. Sounds so simple yet my mind makes it think it's ten times harder.

But considering I know how it will end, I'll just tell her how I feel and just get it out of the way.

Well that's different for each person. I'll be honest with you, sometimes that pain never goes away.

[There is a deep pain in her voice as if she knows this fact well.]

That isn't to say that you'll never fall in love again but sometimes you meet someone that makes that feel difficult or impossible.

The best we can do is keep moving forward. [She chews on her lower lip before continuing.] I can't be with the person that I love most but I don't want to leave his side. Even if that means we can't ever really be together I'll always think about him first and be there for him. It makes me happy to stay near him. I know this isn't really an answer but I hope it helps.

That kind of sounds like what I would want to do. I mean I care about my friends, so even if I liked one and they didn't share my feelings... I would rather they be happy than me.

But you sound like you have a lot of understanding on that subject.

Yes.

I'm very close to someone that I like and he might like me back but we can't be together. It's sad but there are more important things to focus on so I focus on them.

I won't tell you that it's easy but it's a path you can take.

Just because there are others things one has to do, doesn't mean one can't be with another.

People can be together and still do things like save the world or handling whatever it here every so often.

[Kahlan's voice sounds very sad.]

It's far more complicated than that.

I hope I have helped you some.

Yeah, a bit. But I still don't think saying will be a good idea when I am pretty sure what will happen.

Do what you think it's best for you.

[She tries to make her voice sound happy.]

Only you know what that is.

I guess. I guess my idea is to try and avoid getting hurt as much as possible. Mostly because I know that is what would happen.

[She smiles.]

Sounds like a good idea. I wish you luck but I have to go.

Hmmm... I think general passive future honesty would be nice for me... Something like 'I'm so glad you consider me your friend, I have no desire to ever give that up unless it was to become even closer."

[A pause followed by a chuckle.]

There was a man a decade older and more brazen than yourself who declared he would go on a date with me when we had some free time. I said I might have some in a century or two... I wouldn't put it past him to find a way just to put me at a loss for words twice.

I guess that guy must really like you or something if he seemed willing to wait that long.

Well, he asked for a discount since humans don't live that long. He also calls me 'ane-san' which does amuse me. He's a decade older than you, but over twelve hundred years younger than myself. It's a depressing situation for both of us under the light words.

How... do you know how old I am anyway? Or you just taking a huge stab at it.

[A wry chuckle.]

Mostly experience and a bit of guessing but your voice gave me a lot of clues. Teens and early twenties are a point of great change which frequently brings insecurity because of those changes. It's natural to seek acceptance or assistance with new experiences during that period of growth but humans seem to think it needs to be difficult and shameful.

[After a slight pause.]

Please, don't think I'm making light of your original question. Puberty takes a lot longer for mixed Bloodline so just imagine having your voice breaking for ten to fifty years. The man in question is probably somewhere around thirty and is in the military so he's had quite a bit of time to build his personal experience, confidence, and ability to withstand rejection.

{Another more hesitant pause.]

And I would have when the time came. Gone on a date with him, that is.

I should have figured the voice thing. I do have a lot of things to go through.

[He paused only briefly.]

I didn't think of it like that at all, your saying things from your own experience and that is always a good thing to take into account when helping someone. Helps more than someone who has no experience.

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