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Dear Men (with an interest in women),

Let's say an attractive woman is romantically and sexually interested in you. What would be the best way for her to approach? What would endear you to her most? What would excite you most? What would make you really notice her? What would make you want to be with her?

Thank you for your support.

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Be up front. A display of honesty and confidence is the best approach. Don't waste your time figuring out any other method to catch their attention. Some people aren't very... observant.

*Aww, this cutie...*

That's what you would prefer? Perhaps 'I really like you. I think you're very handsome.' And that's it?

If you’re having to try too hard then he’s might either be dense or not ready.

I don’t think you should have to try hard for someone’s attention.

I haven't tried at all. Not really. Not properly. I'm too clueless.

I'm afraid the answers you receive will all be different based on each man who responds. Among my group of companions tastes varied wildly, and we typically were far more active in their own pursuits of women.

[That was a contender for the understatement of the year. Gawain was always obvious about having an interest in buxom women, Tristan had fallen head-over-heels for a specific woman, and then there was Lancelot, who was the most (in)famous of them all in that regard. Bedivere's own love life was rather simple, though.]

In general, however, I find there are two key points to keep in mind: Be honest, and be yourself.

Then you are probably on the right track.

In my experience, at least, love is something that you cannot escape. If it’s mutual, then neither of you will need to try very hard.

I'm not a man, but being direct and just being yourself like others have suggested already are important. You want him to like you, not some act you're putting on to get his attention, right?

I think if you wanted to set yourself apart, invite him out for a date that involves one of his interests. That shows that you care enough about him as a person to pay attention to details like that.

Edited 2018-08-15 22:42 (UTC)

Tacky as this may sound, as long as you're speaking from the heart, you can't go wrong. If you're truly romantically interested, then that is the best way to go about it. I know I, personally, would prefer a woman be up front and say what's on her mind to me, should that ever come to be. You may catch him off guard, but the important thing is that you were open and honest about it. It would have the best results for you both, especially if he returns those feelings.

Oh my! Is someone having romance troubles? Sounds like you're a little scared to approach him, dear anon. The best thing is to coax him into a little chat. Offer to wine and dine him in your attempts to know them better. Be brave and be yourself. Show him what you're about wothout spilling all the beans. I know personally I'm attracted to my lover's wit along with her cunning little smirks. Although, what truly attracted me to Rip was her exotic accent. Her beauty also helped but I noticed my beloved because I adore her confidence.

If she's already tossed out signs or hinted that she might be interested in anyway, I'm already probably pretty interested in her.

Otherwise just ask them out to dinner or something. Be clear that you're asking them out on a date. If they turn you down, they aren't interested in you.

Straight up. The bolder and more upfront the better. Overwhelm any doubts before I have time to let them build. Leave no questions in mind.

Being friends is also important. If you have nothing in common or can't spend time together having fun, it will never work. And trust. Not that I ever advocate more trust, but you have to have some. Enough to be bold.

Good luck.

Have you tried telling him you're interested?

As everyone else has put it and probably the wisest words of all:

Just Be Yourself.

If they like you back that is what they liked about you in the first place. So trying to over think it could just cause problems down the line. Go simple, basic if you are nervous then nothing can honestly go wrong unless they have no interest.

I would prefer her to be direct about it. Why should she suffer unnecessarily? [Merlin knows Gellert isn't subtle.]

[ Gren refuses to be excluded. ]

You're overthinking it. It isn't a performance. Present your most authentic self. There's nothing more endearing to me than a ma-- WOman with integrity. Even if your truest form is a bumbling mess, I'd love that.

Just being blunt and honest. I don't know you at all to know how you, yourself would approach it and I assume you don't know yourself to be asking this question.

But in reality, only you really know how you would want to say it. But either way, you have to go in knowing there's always the possibility of 1) Them leaving Genessia at some point. It might not ever happen, but it might also happen, maybe more than once. You can never really be sure and 2) The possibility of them not liking you or liking you back, but there are situations where right now is not a good time.

As much as those two points are... awful to say the least but knowing them and still wanting to try shows a lot more how much you care when you think about it.

Edited 2018-08-16 08:54 (UTC)

*This takes a moment. Or five. While she flails around and probably drops her phone. There's no way. It couldn't be. Could it?*

Gren?!

[ He jumps a bit, startled by the familiarity in which his name was spoken. It catches him off guard and stuns him into silence. ]

. . .

[ Although their acquaintanceship had been all too brief, hearing her voice again resurfaces the memory of their encounter, everything he shared with her, and worse. . . ]

. . .Faye?

[ Gren switches his phone into his left hand, patting off the sweat from his right onto his new slacks. None of this is actually happening, right? So, just calm down and play around with it. He resituates his smile and then switches to video. ]

I had no idea you felt so strongly about me. Consulting the public for advice? I'm flattered. Really.

[ His smile remains steady, but the slight tremor in his voice betrays it. ]

*After the silence, Faye wonders if she got it wrong, or if really the impression she had left on him was so bad that he didn't want to speak with her.

But then, especially seeing his face on her screen, she knows it's him. Somehow. It isn'f unudual for dead people to show up here, she knows that much. Still, it's a shock. And dammit, what an embarrassing way to be reintroduced*

Yeah. It's me.

*The screen flickers to video, and there she is, as ever, and looking wildly surprised*

Forget about that. You're here. And you remember me so...you must remember...?

*Faye trails off, not sure how to ask if he remembers why he left, if he remembers dying*

[ Remember? His smile falters, brows furrowing a bit. Yeah, he remembers. He regains his composure, although his smile isn't as steady as before. ]

Do I remember you trying to kill me?

[ He knows she didn't actually intend to kill him back then, but bringing it up is better than discussing the alternative. ]

Edited 2018-08-16 10:56 (UTC)

*Seriously? That's what he comes up with? Faye visibly bristles and gives him a good frown of her own*

Kill you? I was trying to save your life! And you know that! So don't give me that bull, Mr Handcuffs.

*Well, she sure hasn't forgotten the way she was left*

[ He averts his eyes, nodding. This is still inching uncomfortably close to something he can't bear to acknowledge at the moment. He digs his teeth into his lower lip for a second before looking back at Faye, a new smile taking the place of that nervous tic. ]

So, you weren't into the handcuffs?

[ He knows he's being annoying, but maybe it'll be enough to distract Faye from what he's afraid to remember. ]

*Faye watches him, and although she doesn't know him extremely well, she knows that being suddenly brought back, to a strange, and rudely confronted by Faye, is probably not his ideal situation. At mention of the handcuffs, she just gives him the most deadpan of deadpan looks*

Do you have idea what my friends were thinking about you when they came to get me?

Then I suppose that's exactly where the problem is - I think I'd rather have a much better inkling that maybe he returns the feelings before projecting my own.

It doesn't need to be love. It just needs to be like. But I have no idea if it's anywhere close to being mutual.

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