[Anon Text and Anon Forever]

[myfayevalentine]

 Dear Men (with an interest in women),

Let's say an attractive woman is romantically and sexually interested in you. What would be the best way for her to approach? What would endear you to her most? What would excite you most? What would make you really notice her? What would make you want to be with her?

Thank you for your support.

Comments

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[drownindarkness]

Be up front. A display of honesty and confidence is the best approach. Don't waste your time figuring out any other method to catch their attention. Some people aren't very... observant.

[myfayevalentine]

*Aww, this cutie...*

That's what you would prefer? Perhaps 'I really like you. I think you're very handsome.' And that's it?

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[ubiquitously]

If you’re having to try too hard then he’s might either be dense or not ready.

I don’t think you should have to try hard for someone’s attention.

[myfayevalentine]

I haven't tried at all. Not really. Not properly. I'm too clueless.

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[holyswordarm]

I'm afraid the answers you receive will all be different based on each man who responds. Among my group of companions tastes varied wildly, and we typically were far more active in their own pursuits of women.

[That was a contender for the understatement of the year. Gawain was always obvious about having an interest in buxom women, Tristan had fallen head-over-heels for a specific woman, and then there was Lancelot, who was the most (in)famous of them all in that regard. Bedivere's own love life was rather simple, though.]

In general, however, I find there are two key points to keep in mind: Be honest, and be yourself.

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[myfayevalentine]

If it were that simple, surely everyone would be paired up and happy. They need to like me first.

Text, not anon

[fashionably_strong]

I'm not a man, but being direct and just being yourself like others have suggested already are important. You want him to like you, not some act you're putting on to get his attention, right?

I think if you wanted to set yourself apart, invite him out for a date that involves one of his interests. That shows that you care enough about him as a person to pay attention to details like that.

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[myfayevalentine]

*Finally, someone with some practical advice. Yes, she needs to set herself apart from all those potentials that he has out there*

A date that involves his interests is a good idea. He'd be more likely to say yes that way too, I bet.

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[immortalrose]

Oh my! Is someone having romance troubles? Sounds like you're a little scared to approach him, dear anon.

The best thing is to coax him into a little chat. Offer to wine and dine him in your attempts to know them better. Be brave and be yourself. Show him what you're about wothout spilling all the beans.

I know personally I'm attracted to my lover's wit along with her cunning little smirks. Although, what truly attracted me to Rip was her exotic accent. Her beauty also helped but I noticed my beloved because I adore her confidence.

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[myfayevalentine]

Wine and dine. I can do that. But he'd have to say yes when I ask in the first place - that's the hard bit.

Cunning, wit, and beauty. I'm pretty sure I have those.

[myfayevalentine]

Sure. I get that. And I want to be myself. But I want him to like that. So I think I need to be myself but shinier. More...interesting to him somehow.

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[burnwithawesome]

If she's already tossed out signs or hinted that she might be interested in anyway, I'm already probably pretty interested in her.

Otherwise just ask them out to dinner or something. Be clear that you're asking them out on a date. If they turn you down, they aren't interested in you.

[myfayevalentine]

Really? Interested in her just because she's interested in you?

I suppose that's true - if I'm turned down, then I know. But doesn't that just make things awkward?

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[watcheddog]

Straight up. The bolder and more upfront the better. Overwhelm any doubts before I have time to let them build. Leave no questions in mind.

Being friends is also important. If you have nothing in common or can't spend time together having fun, it will never work. And trust. Not that I ever advocate more trust, but you have to have some. Enough to be bold.

Good luck.

[myfayevalentine]

We're friends. That's a start. And I trust him. Pretty much.

*Because trust isn't something she will give easily, but the man did save her life, after all*

But what is this bold stuff all about? Am I supposed to just ignore the fact that maybe he's perfectly happy just being my friend?

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[alwaysimpaled]

Have you tried telling him you're interested?

Text Anon So Hard

[myfayevalentine]

*Oh, God. That's Dante. And Dante is friends with the person in question. But she's anon. So it's fine, right?*

What? Just saying 'Hello. You are handsome and I am romantically interested in you'?

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[trollkeru]

As everyone else has put it and probably the wisest words of all:

Just Be Yourself.

If they like you back that is what they liked about you in the first place. So trying to over think it could just cause problems down the line. Go simple, basic if you are nervous then nothing can honestly go wrong unless they have no interest.

[myfayevalentine]

That's just great and all, but I have no idea if he has any of those thoughts or feelings.

So... Yeah. I mean. That's my point - how do I get his interest?

[Anonymous Text]

[greatestgood]

I would prefer her to be direct about it. Why should she suffer unnecessarily? [Merlin knows Gellert isn't subtle.]

[Anonymous Text]

[myfayevalentine]

Suffer? Why suffer?

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[saxophone]

[ Gren refuses to be excluded. ]

You're overthinking it. It isn't a performance. Present your most authentic self. There's nothing more endearing to me than a ma-- WOman with integrity. Even if your truest form is a bumbling mess, I'd love that.

Private Voice

[myfayevalentine]

*This takes a moment. Or five. While she flails around and probably drops her phone. There's no way. It couldn't be. Could it?*

Gren?!

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[brbgettingwrench]

Just being blunt and honest. I don't know you at all to know how you, yourself would approach it and I assume you don't know yourself to be asking this question.

But in reality, only you really know how you would want to say it. But either way, you have to go in knowing there's always the possibility of 1) Them leaving Genessia at some point. It might not ever happen, but it might also happen, maybe more than once. You can never really be sure and 2) The possibility of them not liking you or liking you back, but there are situations where right now is not a good time.

As much as those two points are... awful to say the least but knowing them and still wanting to try shows a lot more how much you care when you think about it.

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[myfayevalentine]

*Faye just stares at this. Who even is this person? The hell kind of doom and gloom is this?*

You get now why I haven't done or said anything? You get now why I want to make sure he likes me before I do anything?

I don't know if it will show that I care or if he'll just think that I'm an idiot...

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[chief_of_staff]

[I'm not that experienced in this kind of thing, but I'd be sure to notice if she just talked to me.

Not that helpful, I know. Sorry!]

[myfayevalentine]

Sure, talking is a good idea. I mean, it's not like I'm a stalker watching him from afar or anything...

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[youfool]

There's all the subtle felicities women are so good at. Fluttering eyelashes, "come hither" gazes, and so on. And saying "you know, my dance card's free" couldn't help but send the right message.

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[myfayevalentine]

*Well, here's a guy who definitely knows what he's talking about*

Exactly. And I'm very good with my eyes. But I suppose I am asking because...what if that is not enough? If the eyelashes don't work, does that mean it's not enough, or simply that he is not interrested?

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[keymemory]

This is a really weird post! Why do you think you can make someone do anything they don't wanna do?

[myfayevalentine]

Gee. Thanks.

I don't want to force him. I just want to know what to do to improve the likeliness of him liking me.