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[la_matrona]

[this is much harder to write than it has any reason to be and there is no part of Imelda that actually wants to write it. But needs must and she must because there is too much on the table and, at any rate, at least she can distance herself somewhat from the question.

So she has to word it very carefully]



I know of someone who has a temper and a sort fuse when it comes to certain things. She is a shrew who will not be tamed, and yet her nature is making everyone in her familia suffer. So som advice on how to help her not care any more is appreciated.

Unless you are Ted.



[she glances over it. Si. This seems fairly ambiguous. Satisfied, she sends it]

Comments

[Video]

[om_nom_namur]

Yer callin' someone a shrew? Shit, that's a li'l scary t' think on.

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[la_matrona]

And what exactly are you implying.

[she is not entirely surprised that he had guessed who she was. They have talked before after all]

[Video]

[om_nom_namur]

That y' set a high standard. As with all things, naturally. What kinda lady wouldja be if y' jus' went 'round insultin' any ol' dumbass y' found on the streets, aye?

[Video]

[la_matrona]

[she laughs. Disarmed and charmed by this in a strange sort of way]

One with very little patience. [which she doesn't have a lot of, granted. But for the most part people seem to get out of her way for some reason]

But I wonder if my standards are too high.

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[zerograv]

You mean, you want advice on how to tame your temper... or not care that it hurts your family? Or well, I mean, advice for the person you know.

Video

[la_matrona]

The person that I know. [clearly not her] Clearly the best way to not be angry is to feel nothing toward the person you are angry at.

[perhaps she should have drunk the potion instead]

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[zerograv]

I think that's a pretty selfish thing to want, to be honest. They're family so you should want to do things to help them. If her temper's that bad she should work on herself rather than trying to find a way not to deal with the consequences of it, if you ask me.

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[la_matrona]

You might be right. [there is the drumming of irritated bone fingers] But that seems impossible.

[spacepeterpan]

Oh, brilliant, asking for a friend, I s'pose. Somehow, you lot always thinking you'll make things better by not caring. A thousand years of space and time and I've never seen it happen, not once, but that's always how humans think they'll solve their problems, why is that?

[#notallhumans, obviously, but he's more than a little frustrated with that particular point of stubbornness.]

[la_matrona]

Are you always this charming or do I get a special treatment because I refuse to listen to your supercilious bullying?

[she should have said no Doctor, too, but that's a bit more complicated]

Well clearly you know everything there is to know about every situation- so enlighten me.

[spacepeterpan]

Bullying?

[...he can't get all that fired up about being accused of being a bit pretentious or overbearing or arrogant, but BULLYING? He's pretty sure not literally everyone sounds like teenagers, but there are times...]

Fine, yeah, all right, if I had to guess?

[It's both hedging and said just a tad combatively. He's always on some level a tad reluctant to expound on the inner thoughts of beings as contrary and weird as humans, but now he's getting called out and being called a bully, to boot.]

You lot get scared, and that's fine, nothing wrong with scared, scared can be brilliant, very healthy thing, scared, but you don't always remember to take care of each other, when you get scared. Some of the most dangerous things in the Universe, frightened humans--but sometimes the most beautiful, when you don't choose to not care.

[He pauses for a second, just looking profoundly frustrated, then rubs his face and shakes his head exasperatedly.]

...your life--well, so to speak--can't really tell you what to do with it, that's on you, and I think we agree on that, but I can tell you what I've seen, and you can be so much more than just tough, you lot. You can be kind and you can be compassionate in a way that makes the Universe brighter--when you choose to.

[For the most part, he's deliberately leaving it just a bit vague whether "you" means her in particular, or humans in general (because it's sort of both) but he does tie it back in at the end.]

Don't worry about being tamed--who wants tamed?--just be kind, and don't be afraid to care, you're more than strong enough, haven't got a doubt of that, question's just if you're willing.

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[highpitchednoises]

Maybe it would help to really think about what's causing this person's temper to go off? Are they upset because something is hurting their family, like really badly hurting them? If it isn't, then maybe they can try to focus on the positives they may have missed before because of their temper.

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[la_matrona]

[the only one doing that to her familia is her, and perhaps it has always been. Can she enjoy the positives of having Hector so close again in her life?

No.

As for what is causing]

Everything. Nothing. Simple things that are better off forgotten. Emotion is a waste of time.

[all she ever wants to feel is the love and deep devotion to her familia but even that seems corrupted]

[Voice]

[madcuriosity]

Well, I suppose the first question to ask, miss, is what certain things make her lose her temper?

[text]

[la_matrona]

Being in the same room with him usually.

[Voice]

[madcuriosity]

Oh ah... that seems like quite a problem. Why does being in the same room as him make her lose her temper?

voice;

[brbgettingwrench]

So... you are asking for advice on how to control your temper or to stop caring at what sets them off or something?

I admit... probably not the best one to ask for this since if I get angry at someone I have thrown wrenches at them.

voice;

[la_matrona]

What a horrible thing to do. [she might have beat an odd bit of machinery or bandito with her shoe, but--]

It's not-- [oh, forget it] It would be easiest to stop caring completely about what it is they do.

voice;

[brbgettingwrench]

It is, but when they break something that takes three days without sleep to repair, or they get into serious trouble where they could have died, I am going to get annoyed. [Mostly because she worries or worried. She was at least glad here she hadn't actually ever done that to anyone, yet.]

But that isn't the point, but I can at least say that if they are something you care about deeply it will not be easy to just switch off so to speak. It wouldn't be something that can be done overnight and would probably take time. So if you still want to go down that route, probably remember that.

[chambermusicandtenpins]

Are you having some difficulties, Imelda?

[la_matrona]

Señora. Por favor. [she does like him but she's not that close. At the question she sighs]

Si. Dealing with ... [she gestures] I've never been... It's never been easy.

[except when it had been too easy but the less thought of those days the better]

[chambermusicandtenpins]

My apologies, Señora.

I'm sorry to hear you've been dealing with troubles. But I do not think that not caring has ever been much of a solution to anyone's struggles.

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[betri]

I think having a bad temper doesn't make someone a bad person. Maybe your friend needs to sit down and talk with her family about whatever it is that makes her mad so quickly? Sometimes just being open and honest about things can help a lot.

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[la_matrona]

That would take entirely too long. [she's being facetious in a way, but] The problem is unfixable anyway so explaining it would do nothing but[make him apologize for the thousandth time and give her that look that just-- just makes her want to]

The one to change has to be her. No one else is going to do it. Nor should.

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[betri]

That's not fair though. She shouldn't have to change. There has to be SOME way of making the others understand.

Families should work together to solve problems.