[Anon Text]

[borntolove]

How does one go about forgiving yourself?

Comments

Re: ANON

[bigbadrose]

Hakuna Matata.

That's the point.

It hurts so you do something about it instead of ignoring it.

Forgiving yourself won't make it go away.

Re: ANON

[borntolove]

[That's the problem he did ignore it when Jackson offered the advice of letting things go - but how can he let things go with nearly everyone here?]

Yes, it will

[It will get him out of the self - hate cycle that he's really stuck in]

Re: ANON

[bigbadrose]

No. You're just setting yourself up for disappointment all over again. Thinking one little thing will solve all your problems. But it doesn't work that way. Trust me, I've been there.

Re: ANON

[borntolove]

And trust me it's the only thing I haven't done yet.

Re: ANON

[bigbadrose]

What do you have to forgive yourself for?

You can be as vague as you need.

Re: ANON

[borntolove]

Hurting my friends and - choices made after that

Re: ANON

[bigbadrose]

You need to ask them then. And accept that their word is more important than yours.

And do what you can so you don't keep doing it.

Everyone hurts the ones they love the most sometimes. It's part of being family. Mistakes happen, it's part of learning.

Don't cling, but learn from that pain.

If you're still hurting, maybe it's because you're still trying to ignore something big. Like maybe you're still doing it, or haven't figured out how to avoid doing the same things over again, yeah?

Re: ANON

[borntolove]

[Martha and Jack have - but Rose - Rose is still pending on it and someone is debating a bit still if someone deserves Martha's forgiveness. And he can't ever ask Donna, now can he? She'll either be behind or won't know - him

The other thing is - his own stupid idea of closing up so he wouldn't feel the pain anymore.


Why is it so much harder to open up than close one's hearts?]

Okay.