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Auntie! I don’t like to talk about my problems a lot but I have…

[ she feels somewhat uncomfortable, talking about this. but she heard that this anonymous person was nice and face good advice. ]

Dreams. Bad dreams. I usually sleep very erratically? And weird. But I can’t sleep at all now.

There must be a lot on my mind. But I can’t put my finger on it. Please help!

My Dearest Friend

My first thought is to wonder if the sleep problems and the nightmares are interconnected or completely separate. In other words if you could solve the sleep problems, would the nightmares desist? Or vice versa...

If you can't tell what's troubling you, neither can I, I'm afraid. But I would suggest you seek out a doctor to help you with your sleep problems and a friend or someone with a willing ear to help out with your nightmares. Sometimes talking can help one overcome bad dreams.

[and sometimes nothing could. But that was the way things went]

Unfortunately, however, some things are only solved with time. You may do all these things and not find an immediate answer or relief. But I believe if you are persistent and honest, you will find some measure of peace.

Wishing you luck.

Kindest regards,

Auntie

Edited 2016-08-14 01:11 (UTC)

Dear Auntie

I've read that in addition to "Fight" or "Flight", there's also "Posture" and "Submit". That is, displaying strength and vulnerability, respectively, to end a conflict.

I'm interested in the former: "Posture". They say intimidation is one of the ways men use to end a fight before it gets gruesome. What are some of the ways to frighten someone so you don't have to get rough?

Sincerely
Would-be spookster

My Dearest Spookster,

While your goal appears to be noble; it will not, I'm afraid, be easy.

Though I know nothing of who you are or your abilities, you will not be able to intimidate everyone. In fact you may goad the very people you are intimidating into further violence so they may prove to themselves and you how much they are not afraid. Therefore, there are some situations in which you will be forced into violence and may have to stand up to whatever force is working against you and I hope you can subdue it for reasons I will get into.

If you are willing to accept that risk, the biggest factor of intimidation, or posture, or 'posing', as it were, is to suggest a consequence dire enough to dissuade someone from committing the act you are against.

For example: If you touch this or that object, I will beat you to within an inch of your life.

Again, this may cow some while it will spur others to action.

But should you fight and lose, or get beaten soundly enough, you will lose your reputation and so no Posturing will work until such a time that you can regain it, if you can do so.

Unless you are extremely powerful, I would suggest getting together a cabal of like minded individuals to enforce your 'ideas', as it were. An individual can be easily gotten around, but most would think twice at facing a group of consequence, thereby stopping any fights before they start.

Though again, some may take that as a challenge.

My final suggestion is to take notes of those whose Posture you find intimidating and see how they do it and how you may emulate them.

Otherwise, be prepared for a long grueling fight balanced on the precipice of maintaining your reputation or falling brutally into the realm of no one taking you or your goals seriously.

Best wishes,

Auntie

Actionable threats, mobs, and copying the tried and true, all while keeping a close eye on the banes and blessings of reputation. Thank you, Auntie.

[... he wonders if he should have said all that. He just got carried away with the theory of it all.

....Ma, oh well. What was the worst that could happen?]

Dear Auntie,

Lately I haven't been able to sleep and I'm getting headaches. Perhaps it wouldn't be so bad if I don't sleep alone, but I'm worried it might train my dog improperly and spoil her instead of keeping her a serious guard. On top of which, I usually have a rule that I don't let anyone sleep in my bed if I don't have sex with them, and I'm not about to fuck my dog. But if I break the rule, it might set a bad precedent for others. Are some rules just destined to be broken, or is this one to be upheld?

Sincerely,
Rule-Breaker

My, my, my dearest Rule-Breaker,

There are some things that Auntie simply does not want to know!

[Unless you are a beautiful woman-- but he's not going to risk finding out who this really is]

But since I do know now I am not sure what to do with it. Some good strong tea may help.

In regards to your problem, are the 'others' you refer to dogs? If so, train accordingly. If people, well they are not dogs and so I fail to see the problem. Simply don't allow them to sleep with you-- unless of course you are feeling lonely and so one dog would certainly not break the rule.

Whether the rule is to be broken or upheld is largely up to you, I'm afraid. You are the maker of your own destiny or downfall in this area. If you are lonely perhaps get a stuffed animal or seek a lover.

[ he will not ask for measurements and availability. if he were not the auntie alas. And it could be a man and Kuzan does not want to stew in that pot]

I suppose you could also have the dog sleep beside your bed or perhaps sleep on the floor yourself?

In any case, I wish you the best of luck in resolving your problems.

Kindest regards,

Auntie

Antie i got a problem Im 2 damn awesome and it makes it hard 2 relate 2 ppl not as awesome as me Wat do?

My dearest Awesome,

Unfortunately you are far too awesome for me to help. Unless you make the difficult way down off your pedestal to merely mundane, you will forever have to be above the rest of us.

Best of luck,

Auntie

O come on u didnt even try Tell me 2 help make other ppl awesome 2 or some shit Have sum faith in other ppl Damn

My dearest Awesome,

Why do you expect me to work if clearly you know all the answers? I cannot compete with your awesome. Nor should I even try. Please continue to be the glittering heroic figure to which we all can only but hope to achieve. You inspiration. You shining magnificence. etc. etc

Kindest regards,

Auntie

Cuz yuo seem kinda lonely And u offered ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Ah, you've got me I'm afraid.

I seem to have misjudged you and for that I sincerely apologize.

If it is just to keep a dear old lady like me company, well, I am afraid I have no answer for you still--for you are far too awesome for anyone... in my heart.

Loving regards,

Auntie

[ This is weird, but as long as it's anonymous... It might just be worth a shot, whether it confirms what she already has been told or if she does get something else that just might work. ]

Dear Auntie,

I have been plagued by nightmares for several weeks now, all leading back to a horrible event. How often they happen has lessened, but I still find myself facing many sleepless nights because of them and how vivid they are. I have tried calming teas, reading, and exercise, and it feels ridiculous that it still effects me so even if a close friend tells me otherwise. Do you have any suggestions?

There is also a friend I cannot speak to of these events at all out of fear of what he will do out of a need for vengeance. Even though I continue to tell myself it is for his own safety, I still find myself feeling terrible for not revealing to him the truth in any way. It feels too dishonest, and I want to be able to trust him completely. Should I continue to keep it secret, or should I speak to him of what has happened?

[ It seems a lot of people are having nightmares recently. This reads like more PTSD than anything. Not that this makes it any easier. Ah well]

My Dearest Friend,

Unfortunately there is nothing to do but ride the wave and know that it will crest eventually. The only thing that can help it is time and understanding. Even then it may not fade completely, but it will be easier to bear. If it helps, there is nothing ridiculous about it. Even the strongest can be broken by dreams and memories such as these. Some never recover. But that you are still functional is a good sign so take heart. Have courage.

The rest I cannot tell you. I don't know your friend and even if I did, that is a decision that is yours alone to make. But ask yourself why you want to tell them. Is it something that will be positive or detrimental to them in the end? Will it be positive or detrimental to yourself?

Also remember that words, once said, cannot be unspoken.

Best of luck,

Auntie.

[ As she thought. She has to sigh at the answer, though it's clear that this person is at least trying. It doesn't feel like they're mocking her at the least. ]

Dear Auntie,

Thank you. It is nothing I have not heard before, but it does help in that I know no one has deceived me in that way.

I wish to tell him because I wish to be able to trust him with anything as a dear friend. What has kept me from doing so is that I fear he will react poorly, to put things mildly. The need to tell him is selfishnes son my part I suppose.

I only regret there is not a simple solution. If there were perhaps the world would be a better place.

As for your friend, everyone has things they can and cannot do. Let us suppose your friend cannot handle this news in the way you desire, would that make him any less of a friend? There is no right and wrong answer to this. If it does make him less of a friend then you will either have to accept the disappointment or move on. Or you can preserve your friendship as it is right now by never asking.

It all depends on what you truly want. What you truly value. That is an answer again that I cannot give you, nor can anyone, but one that you must discover yourself.

kindest regards,

Auntie

[She double and triple checked this to make sure it was anonymous even though she had her doubts about whether or not he actually used or checked such things, but still... This is just one more problem she's not equipped to handle on top of her other ones. An outside opinion (or just any other opinion) might be what she needs.]

Dear Auntie,
Recently I have discovered that someone I once knew is also here, but they aren't the person I last remember them being. Whatever happened to them back home hasn't happened to them yet.

But I remember what they have done (will do?). And now I don't know how to act toward them. They know something is up, and I know I can't keep hiding from them forever.

I just don't know what to do. I don't know what they'll do if I tell the truth, and I don't know if I could lie well enough to fool them. At this point, I don't think I could really even forget all that they've done. I'm just a little hopeless trying to find some way to make this end well.

My dearest friend,

It is always difficult in these kinds of situations, time flow between worlds being as it is-- but I feel you should treat them as they are, not who they will or might be. As for if to tell them or not, I would suggest to not lie, nor to spring it on them. Rather, say:

"You're different from the you that I remember. I know what happened...."

And then you can say either that you do not wish to tell them, which is well within your right; or that you will tell them should they wish to know.

I realize this feels awkward and there is no guarantee that it will ease the situation, however in order to begin to ease any situation you must first approach it.

Best of luck to you.

Kindest regards,

Auntie

[Well she is already pretty awkward, and usually just makes it more so, and hnngg... confrontation. She was hoping to have validation to keep avoiding that.

Even though she knows she shouldn't. And most likely can't. But still]

Thank you,
...I'll try. To treat them the same as I did when we were kids, that is. I don't think I can get away with not answering, but it never hurts to try, I guess

You are welcome.

I fear it may be a difficult situation, but I don't doubt you will pull through.

Dear Auntie,

My friends can't tell when I'm joking. Usually this is part of what I find funny, but lately I'm beginning to wonder if I should give it up since I don't want to hurt my friends by joking too much. Are there better clues I can give them to help them tell the difference? Or should I just trust them to figure it out on their own?

- S

[ Stop concussing them with jitte]

My dearest S,

If you are not so inclined to give up your tremendous wit and sense of humor--perhaps add, I'm joking? To the end of your jokes? (so-called?) Until, at least, people can get the measure of it on their own.

A little more communication and little less blunt force trauma goes a long way.

Kindest regards,

Auntie

[He actually laughs at that. But blunt force trauma is his forte!!!!]

[But he'll try to remember it...]

[Although diving right in like that...]

[Gah.]

[Maybe he's better off giving it up after all.]

Sound advice, but that in itself might be a little too blunt for me. Can you give me a subtler example to try? Or is gauging my words more carefully a good start?

[ Oh, this is true enough.]

You could gauge your words. Though a smile may suffice.

What if I break glass trying?

[:|]

[What?]

[SERIOUS QUESTION HERE.]

.... [wat]

Aim away from mirrors.

Dear Auntie,

I can't help but notice the many people here who have special skills. Some have super human abilities, some are highly skilled fighters, some are incredibly intelligent.

I, however, am only human. I have average intelligence and I couldn't win a fight. Why is it that I am so boring and unusual in comparison? Could it be that I ended up here by mistake?

Thank you, Auntie.
From Just A Normal Average Girl

My Dearest Normal Average Girl

Everyone has something they can do better than anyone else. Even if it is just being themselves. I am sure that you have some talent or skill others do not possess and therefore envy or long for-- but let us suppose for a moment that you do not.

Let us suppose that you are just an average girl with nothing to recommend her other than her sweet personality.

While that may not matter too much to the world stage, it certainly matters to the people that know you and like you. You fill a place in their lives and should you be absent from it, they would definitely feel the loss. Just by being yourself you create more impact than you know on the people around you.

I cannot say if you were brought here by mistake because I don't know how or why anyone is brought here. But even if you were, you are welcome here. There is a place for you, and I have no doubt you are valued.

Keep your chin up, my friend.

Kindest regards,

Auntie

*Shutup, no. Sonico is not getting teary eyed at an anon text message*

Dearest Auntie,

Thank you deeply for taking the time to consider my situation, my questions, and my feelings.

I am so grateful for the people I have met here. Although I haven't been here a long time and though I haven't met many people, you have made me glad to think that I might have a place here and that people might think well of me.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart,
A Much Cheered Up and Grateful Normal Girl

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