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[Anon Text] Suggestions for Sonico

*Sonico knows that she has friends, friends who she could talk to and who would listen and offer advice. For this, though, she is too shy, and she'd also like to get as many ideas as possible - anything to help*

Hello everyone. I am looking for some help and advice.

Let's say you are in love with someone, but that someone is hurting and tired and doesn't seem to be their usual self. What would you do to help them? Or, if you were that loved one, what would you want that person to do? How could they help you to feel better, and more confident about yourself?

*It's only moments later that she wonders if the being in love part is even relevant. So she adds:*

Or this person could be a good friend. Or any friend. Just someone you want to make feel better...

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Bang 'em.

[He has no idea this is you SORRY SONICO]

*What the hell answer is that?*

You mean...?

*Best to clarify, just in case*

Banging. Horizontal tango. Shaboinking. Assault with a friendly weapon. Sex.

The prudes will go "mreeehhh that's wronggg" but it's a healthy way to improve one's mental state. Also it's fun.

unless you're underage

then uh

I dunno talk it out I guess

*Thank goodness this is text and she has a moment to compose herself*

Really? And does that definitely work? Will he be happy and confident again?

If he's a man worth his salt then it'll work.

I mean, I can say it might not be an instant cure-all,
but there are benefits there for both of ya.

I'm gonna go out on a limb and assume you two are new to the whole bedroom rodeo.

I see... This is useful information.

*No, really, she is learning something here. But good gracious is she blushing as she types the next part*

I don't know... I mean, it's all very new to me but... he probably has some good experience.

*And suddenly she is very pale at the thought*

Past experience means nothin' when you get down to it. If he did have that, all it would amount to is being less awkward about it than a first time.

[It has only dawned on him that he should probably focus his advice more towards how a couple would work. He has very little experience in that field, but damn it, he can try!]

So don't focus on any past experiences - if there even are any - and just go at your own pace. You two can figure out what works and what doesn't together.

You can get into the real freaky stuff later.

So it will be awkward? I'd hope to make him feel better... Not to make another awkward situation. Oh dear.

*Whatever advice on any level is more than what Sonico knows herself*

We can figure it out. That sounds...difficult. Are you sure this is the right idea?

Hard to say. I struggle with this sometimes myself. Some people want to talk it over, others would rather be distracted, and some just want to be left alone. So it really depends on the person, and the situation.

But at the core of it? I think what matters most is showing that you care. So don't worry too much about the how's. As long as I know someone genuinely cares about me, personally it goes a long way to cheer me up.

Should I ask him then? If he wants to talk or if I should leave him alone?

I don't think that I care is enough... It might help. Maybe a little. But it's not enough... I wish I could do more...

I think you should. Being open with your communication is really important, especially if you love each other. And he'll probably appreciate the fact that you asked instead of...I don't know...punching his door down or whatever.

[C_C]

Does he know you love him?

That's a good idea. I need to just... ask. I definitely wouldn't punch his door down! But... when I'm with him he does his best to seem like everything is okay and I don't want to upset him too much by telling him that...that I realise he isn't okay.

Yes, he knows. I have told him.

Sounds like he's trying not to worry you, and doesn't realize he's not subtle enough to pull it off. I have a friend back home who's the same way.

[Friggin' Blake.]

It's dumb, but his heart's probably in the right place. So I guess just approach him with your concerns in a calm and collected way. Once he's sure you're all right, he'll probably be okay letting his guard down about it.

So I should be calm and collected and just ask him how he is and what I can do?

*Wow. That sounds straight forward enough. She is pretty good at being calm at least*

I will try that, thank you. I'll do my best. And I hope he won't be angry or disapppointed in me...

I don't know why he would, especially if he cares about you. I mean, would you be mad if someone did the same for you if you were having a tough time?

No. I would be very pleased and it would make me feel much better.

Thank you - your advice has been very useful. You are very wise! :)

What can I say? I'm a people person.

[She's pretty flattered at the compliment, though.]

Good luck! I'm sure you guys will be fine.

You should listen to them, make sure they know you are there to talk to, if they want to say what's bothering them.

If they don't want to say ...

Just be there, and do little things. Make their favorite food, or help them with homework, or even just sitting with them helps!

But if they know you're there for them, that they can rely on you, that goes a long way.

That's how you can show you love them, if you're a friend, or their girlfriend or boyfriend!

If they have little food, or little rest, any other problems will seem more difficult.

Helping with confidence is harder.

Sakuya doesn't always participate in texts or offering advice, but she was on break and more than a little bored.

Do something that your lover would find cathartic. You could go for a jog; play a game; hold a discussion; have sex. There is not only one solution. The important thing is that you both enjoy each other's time and company together.

Sakuya, you've kind of given yourself away. Who uses semicolons in a text message?

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*Too much blushing. She loves Mobius, sure, but thinking of him as her 'lover' has her flustered*

Should I try all of these things...? I'm not sure that just one will be enough. Which do you think will be most effective...?

Do what you think would help the most. Everyone has different things that they respond to. So it's not something that I can answer since this is anonymous and every individual is different. If you are that unsure then take things slowly.

There are different ways to go about this if they're your friend or your lover.

But either way, I would want them to keep me company and be supportive without pressuring me.
I would want them to let me know that they won't leave even though times are hard.

You could offer your support letting them know they can talk to you if they need it but that staying silent it's okay too because you will wait until they're ready to share what is worrying them. At least that's what would help me if I were at your friend's place.

It might not seem like much at first but just letting others know you're there for them already helps.

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